이미 두 열당 필자가 언급한 내용이 New York Post에 자세히 나와 있길래 여기로 전재했읍니다. 자초지종은 신문지상으로 알려진 얘기라서 더 이상의 언급이 필요없으리라고 생각됩니다.

이러한 불행한 요인들을 여기 필진에서 이미 지적했드시 애비가 자식을 너무 잘 교육시키려다가 혼자의 힘으로 일어설 기회조차 박탈했던 것이 아닌가 합니다.

애비가 원하는 대로 IVY대학을 졸업했으나, 세상은 애비처럼 돌봐주지 않는 현실에서 기대대로 자기의 길을 개척하지 못했던 것이 애비를 원망하는 앙심으로 발전했던 같오. 대학을 졸업하고도 상류사회에서 놀아나며 그들의 섞이려 해도 누구 하나 받아주지 않는 현실에서 사회마저 적대감으로 대항했던 것이지요. 아버지의 경쟁자 및 친구의 집을 방화하는 반발로 진전되었다고...

더구나 애비는 자기가 원했던대로 아들이 잘 나가주지 않자, 말끝마다 아들을 나무래고 책망하는 언사를 서슴치 않았던 것도 아들을 더욱 화나게 했던 요인이 되었던 바, 정신과의사의 처방을 받을 정도로 본인이 심적으로 고통을 받았던 것이지요. 상류사회에서 예전처럼 자신을 과시하던 시절은 온데 간데가 없는 싯점에서 애비까지 볶아때리니, 애비를 원수로 보지 않겠나 하는 거지요. 이미 쓸모없는 인간으로 만든 장본인은 자기 잘못은 쥣꼬리만큼도 알아차리지 못했으니 이러한 비극이 일어나는 것은 당연한 순서가 아닐까 합네다.

실제로 아버지 자신도 '헤지훤드'의 창업자라고 알려져 있읍니다만, 겨우 몇천만불 정도의 재산을 굴리고 있었는데 고객이라고는 단 한사람의 5-60만불을 기탁했던 그런 궁색한 처지에 몰렸던 것이라고 합니다.

2014년에 한 6개월을 사귄 여자친구의 말로는, 아무도 그에게 전화하는 친구가 없었으며, 문제의 아들이 자기의 Hedge Fund를 한다는 것도 제대로 시작이 않됐던 차에 애비가 용돈과 아파트값을 줄였을 뿐만아니라 그의 사업에도 거들어주지 않았다고... 실제로 애비는 그렇게 도울 형편에 있지 못했던 겁니다.

문제는 자식을 어려서 부터 모든 것을 해주다가 갑자기 모르는 척한것이 이 젊은이로 하여금 자신의 불우한 처지를 더욱 불행하게 했다는 앙심이 자기 아버지를 살해하는 지경에 이르게 된 것으로 짐작됩니다.

자식은 천하게 굴려서 스스로 제 갈길을 찾아나서도록, 그것이 똥통학교든지 남의 집의 머슴이 되는 한이 있더라도, 자식교육을 엄격해야 할 이유가 있는 좋은 표본이라고 생각되오.

옛날 양반 상놈 하던 시절에 전해지는 교훈 하나는 "아랫사람을 쓸때는 처음에는 엄하게, 그리고 서서히 잘 대우해주어야 고마워 한다"고... 자식도 마찬가지로 이와같이 해야지 나중에 약간의 도움을 진정으로 감사한 거다, 마~ 그런 결론에 도달합니다요.

禪涅槃

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New York Post
Son accused of murdering hedge-funder dad has a dark past
By Emily Smith, Stephanie Smith, Larry Celona and Jamie Schram
January 6, 2015 | 2:54am

A 30-year-old man accused of killing his millionaire Manhattan father is a suspected arsonist and spoiled brat who may have murdered Daddy because the old man cut his allowance by a measly $200, sources said Monday.

Thomas Gilbert Jr. was already hiding a dark past — including his status as the current prime suspect in a Hamptons arson targeting a wealthy rival — before allegedly killing his respected Wall Street father, Thomas Gilbert Sr., 70, sources told The Post.

The pampered Princeton grad went on his alleged murderous rampage amid a months-long feud with his father over what he still thought was his rightful due — despite his parents giving him the best education money could buy and even subsidizing his surfer-dude, gym-rat lifestyle when he got older, sources said.

Gilbert Jr. regularly griped that “his dad was hypercritical of him — he couldn’t do anything right,’’ his ex-girlfriend Anna Rothschild told The Post Monday in an exclusive interview.

“He talked a lot about his dad and how mean he was to him and how nothing was good enough.”

He hadn’t seen his parents since August and finally had enough when Daddy cut his generous allowance, law enforcement sources said.

Gilbert Sr. “had been giving him $2,400 a month for rent and $600 for spending money, and he was cutting [the spending money] to $400,” a law enforcement source said. “They had argued about it before.”

Intent on reining in his son, Gilbert Sr., the Harvard-educated founder of Wainscott Capital, even planned to whittle down the $400 by another $100, a second source said.

At first, Gilbert Jr.’s mom, Shelley Gilbert, 67, was happy to see their son when he showed up on Sunday at the door of their $6,000-a-month apartment at 20 Beekman Place near the United Nations at about 3:30 p.m., sources said. She thought he had finally come to make peace with his father, they said.

The doting mom offered to make Gilbert Jr. something to eat, but he brusquely told her, “I want to talk to Dad,” and asked her to go buy him a sandwich and soda instead, sources said.
But it was a ruse, they added.

“He asked her to get him a sandwich so she wouldn’t be there,” a source said.

When the mom returned, she found her husband’s body in their bedroom — shot once in the head — and their son gone, police said.

“My husband’s been shot by my son!” sources said the distraught woman told a 911 operator.

Cops believe Gilbert Jr. tried to make the murder look like a suicide, placing his .40-caliber Glock semiautomatic on his father’s chest, with the victim’s left hand covering it, before fleeing, sources said.

Cops found the gun’s case — along with two clips and numerous loose rounds — in Gilbert Jr.’s apartment at 350 W. 18th St. after busting him there at about 11 p.m. Sunday, sources said.
Police were trying to determine if he bought the weapon legally.

After the killing, Gilbert watched TV in his pad, law enforcement sources said.

The son may have been planning a getaway. An open suitcase filled with clothes and lying on the hallway floor of his first-floor apartment could be seen through the home’s peephole Monday.

At his arraignment Monday night — at which he was ordered held without bail on charges of second-degree murder and weapons possession — prosecutors said Gilbert was found with a skimming device and 21 blank credit cards.

The tall, handsome Gilbert Jr. — a graduate of the Buckley School on the Upper East Side, Deerfield Academy in western Massachusetts and Princeton — was a fixture on Manhattan’s black-tie society circuit.

Thomas Gilbert Jr. is a prime suspect in a Hamptons arson targeting a wealthy rival.Photo: Michael Heller
But Rothschild, who dated Gilbert Jr. for four months in early 2014, described him as a troubled man who had few friends and no great job prospects.

Gilbert Jr. was trying to start his own hedge fund, but “his dad wouldn’t help him and told him he was stupid,” she said.
“He’s very much a loner. His phone never rang. No one texted him or called him. The one time it rang in four months while we were together, it was his mother.”

Another source said the son suffered from severe obsessive-compulsive disorder and had been off his medication at the time of the slaying.

Gilbert Jr. spent most of his time hanging out in the Hamptons, Rothschild said.

“He surfed and went to the gym and went to yoga, he was very fit,’’ she said.

Rothschild said that she broke off their relationship in May and that she last saw Gilbert Jr. around Christmas.

“We had drinks. He was totally normal. I asked him about the hedge fund. He said it was moving along now. He was in good spirits,’’ she said.

“How could a guy be that gorgeous, that wealthy, that fit, and kill his dad? This is the last thing in a million years that I thought he could do.’’

But even Gilbert’s brokenhearted sister, Clare, 24, told authorities her father could be very controlling when it came to money, sources said.

Gilbert Sr. ran a hedge fund with about $10 million in assets and owned a multimillion-dollar home in the Georgica Association, a gated community in East Hampton, records show.
The dad may have had reason to keep a careful eye on his dough, sources said.

He launched Wainscott Capital Partners in July 2011 with an estimated $2 million of his own money but struggled to get outside investors, sources said.

By January 2012, he had raised only $575,000 from one outside investor, a regulatory filing shows. Gilbert named his fund after the town in the Hamptons where he owned a home — which he borrowed $4 million against last year.

Meanwhile, Gilbert Jr.’s behavior grew worse over the summer and into the fall, sources said. Gilbert Jr. was questioned in a blaze that destroyed a 17th-century house on Sagg Main St. in Sagaponack on Sept. 15 and is still the main suspect, although he has not been charged, sources said.

The home was owned by millionaire ex-Lazard financier Peter Smith Sr., whose son, Peter Smith Jr., had had a falling-out with Gilbert Jr. over a girl, a source said. Smith Jr. already had a restraining order against Gilbert Jr., a court source said.

Gilbert was suspected of killing Smith’s dog before the fire, a source added. The two families knew each other from the exclusive Maidstone Club overlooking the Atlantic in East Hampton, whose members have included many of New York’s most prominent families, such as Jacqueline Kennedy’s father, John “Black Jack” Bouvier III.

But Gilbert Jr. had been blackballed from it after a beef.
He also had gotten into trouble at Stephen Talkhouse and other local clubs, sources said.

Gilbert Jr. started seeing a shrink in December, but it was unclear if he was still under a psychiatrist’s care in the days before the shooting, sources said.

Neighbors described his father as an affable and hearty man.
“I knew him well,’’ said Peter Gazarian, 75. “He always smiled and bent down to pet my little dog, Nina, always had a kind comment from him.

“He was a tall, strong-looking man, always elegantly dressed.”

Additional reporting by Michelle Celarier, Jennifer Gould Keil, Frank Rosario and Bob Fredericks